Well crap, today started out like every other day until you found yourself joining the ranks of the unemployed. You’ve been canned. Sucks, I know. What now ? After going through the full spectrum of emotions, you realize something must be done. A new job ? Sit and mull it over for a while ?
I’ve Been There… Three Times.
I recall each of those days all too well. They were all the same: starting as normal as usual when my boss came into my office, quietly closed the door, and gave me the news. Each time it was an amicable break-up. No crying, no authoritative escorts to the door, and no burning of bridges. And, thankfully, no super long meetings with HR. I accepted my severance pay and went home to ponder my future.
Throughout my career, I was grateful for each job I had. I was genuinely thankful for the opportunity to work for the companies that hired me. But once I was canned I wanted to leave as quickly as I could. Many good-byes, phone numbers and e-mail exchanges, and warm wishes passed along. Yet I was chomping at the bit to get out of there. I was done. Ready to accept my fate. Ready for it all to sink in.
Looking back, I realized that each occurrence had warning signs. The frequent closed door meetings. The downward gaze of management who – I later realized – were aware of my impending doom. And let’s not disregard the request to share my knowledge with other co-workers.
Meeting of the Ends
It has been six years since my last lay-off. Within a week of that cold Day in February, I became the newest member of the work at home world. I initially tried my hand at freelancing – with mild success – allowing me to help pay the bills. I was obtaining long-term clients, I was having fun, and I was able to fulfill my desire to be in total control of my career.
Then tragedy struck.
A year after my last job loss, my husband was diagnosed with cancer. Yep, the big yucky “C-Word”. My freelance work came to an abrupt halt. He was #1 as work was put aside. I lost my clients. I lost my income. The “not knowing” of many things was almost overwhelming. Thank goodness for family and friends.
My husband is doing well now, so I won’t bore you with the details, but it was a career altering life change. For him and me. He is now retired and I continue to work at home. I didn’t go back to my “old” freelance type of work. Nope, instead I developed this blog as a means to help others.
How My Job Loss Allowed Me To Engender Gratitude
I’ll admit, not being gainfully employed was a strain on our finances. All things considered, though, we came out the other end (almost) fully intact. I learned many things during the entire process, and I allowed myself to accept all with an open mind. I tried not to feel sorry for myself, even when times were extremely stressful. Heck, I even learned to be flexible when it came to meal planning (I was a “you’re lucky I cook at all” kind of person).
I retained my dignity, and I believed in myself.
I realized that things happened for a reason. In my personal situation, I realized that losing my job allowed me to care for my husband. It would have been very difficult to do so while trying to hold a full-time job.
Most importantly, I learned to be grateful with what I had. I learned that gratitude could result from a job loss as new doors would be opened. I let those doors open and accepted the opportunities.
Even if my husband had not gotten sick, I bet a million bucks I would still be doing what I am doing now. Those open doors I mentioned…well, they still would have existed and I still would have scouted out my opportunities.
Your situation and life’s circumstances may be different from mine, but take this to heart. When a job loss happens, look at it like an opportunity to do what you truly want to do. Whether it is a new career choice with a different company, the spark of a business idea, or the chance to simply stay at home doing “fun” home-based jobs, realize that this is your chance to accept new challenges and be grateful in the turn of events handed to you. Job loss can engender gratitude.Visit EWomanWeb.com on Google+